Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.
I am single and I am happy too but the people around me (a part from my family) are not happy with my single status. What to do? Are they seriously concerned about my happiness or they consider it their right to comment on “why I am still single?” Moreover, to show sympathy that I am not married yet. But my question to them is “what is their problem”?
Peer pressure, societal pressure always forced girls and their family to end up in a miss match. And later on, such marriages result into divorce and separation. Therefore, it is extremely important not to get married because of pressure. It is better to be single than to end your life in a mess.
There was a time when the perfect age for girls’ marriage was 22-23 but (thanked God) now due to professional education and careers people do not mind getting their daughters married at the age of 26-27.Our society is accepting this trend, but (very) slowly.
Settling with someone just to please the society and to avoid the hurting comments, is not a fair deal. Getting married is not like taking admission in some college or university or for that matter enrolling oneself for some diploma course for a year or so. It is a lifelong decision and should be taken with conscious mind. Rather than emotions and sentiments.
Both boys and girls want a compatible life partner; they look for many things before getting into any relation. And I believe it is good because no one marry for a short period intentionally, so one should be open and careful about it in order to avoid difficulties and problems later on. Today marriages are neither arrange nor love but somewhere in between.
In addition, due to the advancement and development in different means of communication, people found a more easy way to get hold of their (perfect) match. Social networks, mobile phones, matrimonial sites etc. Co-education, working places all are also a good source of match making(if the person is serious). Because through all these means one got the opportunity to know the other person, other than the traditional ways of finding a match.
Therefore, those who are single and happy with it just do not bother what society thinks. Look for your happiness as we all have one life so enjoy it to the fullest. Be happy always.
There was a time when insults had class. People disagree with each other, but in a respectful manner. They insult each other but in a decent and profound way. They value the differences of their opponents. And that was a key to their success. The exchange between Churchill & Lady Astor: She said, “If you were my husband I’d give you poison.” He said, “If you were my wife, I’d drink it.”
A member of Parliament to Disraeli: “Sir, you will either die on the gallows or of some unspeakable disease.” “That depends, Sir,” said Disraeli, “whether I embrace your policies or your mistress.”
“He has never been known to use a word that might send a reader to the dictionary.” – William Faulkner (about Ernest Hemingway).
“Thank you for sending me a copy of your book; I’ll waste no time reading it.” – Moses Hadas
“I am enclosing two tickets to the first night of my new play; bring a friend…. if you have one.” – George Bernard Shaw to Winston Churchill
“Cannot possibly attend first night, will attend second… if there is one.” – Winston Churchill, in response.
But today unfortunately, due to advancement in communication technology and social media particularly Facebook and Twitter, people don’t even think for a second before insulting and ridicule and disrespecting anyone……anyone. As there is no proper monitoring system and no code of ethics for social networking sites. To me these social sites are nothing but a platform where “you just spit, spill and show your filth to everyone”.
Why can’t we act decently?
Why can’t we disagree in a decent manner?
Where is our education?
Where are our religious, moral and ethical values?
Today Pakistanis and our youth (particularly) are divided into different political parties, and are fighting with each other (like anything) whereas our leaders both current and future are having their “sweet time”.
Therefore just take a pause for a moment (from your extremely busy life) and think what are we up to? (and it includes all of us). What are we doing? Where are we heading and what consequences we will have to face?
We as a nation are deteriorating and sinking on moral and ethical grounds with every passing second rather mili- second.
When we all can stand united as a strong nation for a “cricket match”, why not for our country “Pakistan”? Think over it! Change comes from within and all we need to do is to work on our inner souls.
We cannot have a “good leader” with this attitude of ours, because the fault lies within ourselves (within every individual) and only we can rectify it. And the day, when we will be successful in becoming a good human being…..good Muslim….and a good Pakistani then we will not need any leader because someone from us will lead us (In sh ALLAH)
“The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion” Paulo Coelho
Therefore start respecting each other. Start valuing the differences of your fellow citizens. Rise up as a nation…..a nation comprised of honor, dignity, respect and people of amicable character. The world will respect YOU.
With every passing day, social media harassment by PTI’s
supporters (proud social media abusers) is increasing. And I am afraid if Mr.
Khan come into power, then a new “blasphemy law” will be introduce and
according to that law, if someone utter anything against Mr. Khan, he/she will
be hang or stone to death.
In recent past, many hateful and
disrespectful campaigns were launched by PTI social media team, against
almost everyone who dares to ask questions about PTI and Mr. Imran Khan,
be it Sana Baucha (her abusive Facebook page Sana Bitch) Hamid Mir, Dr,
A.Q. Khan, Attaul Haq Qasmi etc. People from different walks of life
were targeted and harassed by PTI social media abusers.
And very recently I was going through
the Facebook pages owned by PTI supporters and I came across with their
new target, a 27 years old young man name Fawad Khalid khan. And I was
quite amused how people on Facebook are malign this guy and why. And I failed to understand why this man is their new target, what offense he committed?
Finally I succeeded in finding out the reason with the help of an article written by Sarah Khan a fellow citizen.
Then I begin my research to find out why
particularly this guy, who is not a celebrity, yet he is target and why
PTI is so scared of him that they are going from pillar to post to
malign this guy.
What my sister Sarah Khan has written, I
truly respect her feelings, as we all wanted to see Pakistan as a
prosper country. But my sister in your desperation of seeing Pakistan a
better place, please do not try to malign anyone without knowing
him/her completely. The character assassination of Fawad Khalid in your
article showsyour biased attitude. And I would not say
that you have written all this, to distort or for some cheap publicity,
or you are paid for writing it, definitely not, but don’t you think one should be extremely careful before spreading such kind of false propaganda and hatred against anyone.
We being the citizens of this country, we have full right and liberty to ask questions to our leaders, (only) …to our leaders only …..to our leaders only……be
them from any party but targeting one person and that too on personal
grounds, is not right, rather it is awful. It shows our hollowness and
shallowness. It is high time that we youth should be united and start
questioning our leadership. Instead of indulging our self into hatred
against each other.
Sarah mentioned in her article that
Fawad was an ex-APML and she was shocked to know this and so she raised
questions about his character.
Sister, leaving one party and then
joining another party does not proved anyone as a bad character, and if
according to your article if someone is, then what would you write on
Mr. Jinnah? He left “Congress” and later joined “Muslim
League”. I hope you got my point. Think rationally and value the
differences of your fellow citizens.
And don’t be shocked sister if he was
supporting Musharraf in past. He himself one a public forum has said it
openly that he was an ex-APML so there is no need to be shocked or
surprised. It is more appropriate to say, that he was an ex-APML, is a fact, and now he is supporting PML (N) is a reality.
Here is a link in which he clearly said that he left APML and why. And
to clear you further he left APML almost “year back not five months”.
And it shows how research oriented article you have written. And just an additional advice sister, when you are writing something about someone “do proper research” before mud slanging anyone.
And I was more amazed by the comments on
the blog, people without knowing anything about him start abusing him.
The whole article was written on here say and without even a pinch of
reality in it. And people are appreciating the blogger.
Great work Sara khan. Outstanding Blog. Needs people like you to present all the realities in front of common people.
My question is, “what kind of reality
and what “great” work you people are talking about and praising about”?
Does anyone dare to ask Sarah from where she gathered all the
information? And started character assassination of Fawad? No one will
ask her, because we are more interested in false propaganda.
Let us have a look who is “real” Fawad Khalid Khan?
A source of inspiration for many young, talented and
educated youth.
We should be proud of Fawad Khalid Khan for his Innovative
Targeting System. We should try to follow his footsteps to make our country
proud! Rather targeting and harassing this young lad (who is a pride of
Pakistan) without any concrete reasons.
The behavior of PTI’s supporters on different forums of
social media has now become a serious matter, whether we like it or not but it
is true. My one and only request to Mr. Khan (putting aside all the political
brawls) please guide this youth and help them so that they don’t get astray.
“I don’t care, if they are dying. It is not my problem. We
will continue our strike till the fulfillment of our demands”.
But what about your “Hippocratic Oath’?
I honestly don’t give a damn to that idiotic oath. To me
that was nothing but just a ritual and I can’t let go my dreams for any such
idiotic oath. Got It!
But I thought you are a doctor and doctors are supposed to
save life. Aren’t they?
There was a time (years back) when the profession of
medicine was considered to be one of the noble professions. Doctors were
respected because they were out there to serve “humanity”, irrespective of
their personal motives and interests.
But today due to greed, lust for money and materialistic
approach, this noble profession has now become one of the most corrupt and
dangerous profession. Where doctors are playing with the precious lives without
realizing how important the life of an individual is. As so many other lives
are linked and associated with one single patient, who is at the mercy of
doctors.
Doctors are supposed to save life, but unfortunately due to
their greed they have now become main reason for a rise in death rate.
Today the cheapest thing on earth is “human life” and it is
the irony of our life.
No one is asking you to be God, but at least be human. Your
one day strike had killed so many innocent people in a day. What would you call
this in humane act? How would you justify your stance? A patient who died due
to your negligence, strike and ego, will never return. Try to differentiate
yourselves with terrorists and suicide bombers.
So please stop this in humane crime, follow some ethics,
personal and professional before it is too late. Think over it before going for
a strike next time!
Lawn Crazy Nation…….Stuck by a communicable disease
HSY, Sana Safinaz, Veenaza Ahmed, Gull Ahmed, Yasir Waheed,
Mausummery, Warda etc etc if you are not familiar with these names then what the
hell you are doing on earth! Few days back I went for shopping (not in search
of any designer lawn) because I am quite comfortable wearing lawn from a pathan
sitting outside a shop or on footpath, provided I like the design and color.
Coming back to lawn craziness, the designer outlet was badly
packed with ladies and it was a sight to watch how ladies were pushing each
other and shouting to get hold of their favorite print. And interestingly no
one was bothered or interested even to talk about price. All were interested in
catching the best print before any one else take away with it. Therefore (with
lots of courage) when I dare to ask “price” (as an odd one out) the sales man
looked at me as if I asked for some banned thing. He was stunned at my question
and I was like OK!
The lawn craziness has taken over our ladies like a storm or
it is like a tsunami you have no choice other then being hit by it willingly or
unwillingly. Or we can say it is a contagious disease no one can escape it. And
with every passing day “lawn craziness” is increasing.
Isn’t it amazing how a simple lawn (few years back) has now become
symbol of showing your wealth,….a status symbol. A lawn has now become
yardstick to measure your status in society and a tool to identify you designer
sense. If you are wearing HSY, Sana Safinaz, Veenaza Ahamed then you are in “A”category
and you belong to very high class.
How a simple lawn has now become a luxury. The changing
trend in designer lawn reaches to such an extent that now days “designer lawn”
are properly launched with release and launching date, along with full
marketing strategies....WOW!
Military thinking is a mindset, very different from the
civilian thinking and approach. Their thinking and life is limited to
“orders”…they gave orders and take orders (their entire life) and interestingly
without any logic. From the beginning, they are program in a way that keeps
them alien to the civilian life style and keeps them restricted to the
protected boundaries of their compound. Moreover, within the boundaries they
are taught “how to rule” the “civilians”.
There is an immense gap and difference between civilians and
military men. Therefore, whenever a dictator mind clashes with the democratic
mind, the situation becomes worst. Because a dictator mind (in its obstinacy), set
rules which are beyond the acceptance of a democratic mind. In addition, it is one
of the reasons of country’s political instability. Military intervention has
always hampers the free democratic system, has always disturbed, and stopped
the smooth flow of democratic system.
According to military beliefs, civilians are children of lesser
God, so they (military) have all rights to disrespect them or ridicule
them for any reason or most of the time without any reason.
Whereas they (military men) are the blessed creatures of
God. Therefore, they are the superior creatures and they made laws for others
to follow. They are not answerable to anyone, but they can question anyone any
time, about anything.
But in their pride they have forget something, that
people will respect them till they keep us protected from the dangerous coming
from the borders but their dictatorship will not be tolerated if they try to draw or create boundaries within the
country and between civilians and military. Because law is same for all, be it
uniform clad man or man without uniform. Bottom line is no one is above law and
we all should respect it.
Therefore, democracy how shams or shallow it may be is far
better than dictatorship. Military rule wants everything to be regimented but
human beings are not programmed to be regimented all the time. They need
freedom. Freedom of thought, freedom of movement, freedom of action. You cannot
rule everyone all the time.
The need is to abolish the current mindset of the military
otherwise wait for dire consequences from the rebellious civilians.
The recent hacking or the sudden disappearance of all PTI Facebook
pages left its supporters, lovers, and followers in a state of disbelief and
denial. Because Facebook is their only strength on social media as PTI’s focus
was always to attract large number of fans for PTI but only on Facebook.
However, the real shocker for PTI (so called) professionals
at social media, came in the shape of an interesting and innovative activity on
twitter started by “awam” ….the supporters of PML(N).
Today PTI’s real strength and their social media strategies were
badly exposed once again. How? An activity started on twitter that lasted for
two hours with the title “#PityForPTI”. It remained as third
worldwide Trending Topic for 20 minutes and Top Trending Topic for an hour in
Dubai and for two hours in Karachi. These nerve-wracking statics once again
left PTI’s social media professionals in a state of shock, more than the
hacking of its Facebook pages.
However, surprisingly there were only few people
representing PTI on twitter to counter it but they lack logic as always. PTI supporters did not come
up even with their trade mark i.e. “abusive language and comments”. Twitter was
all-calm today from PTI lovers. Why?
How could we expect a revolution, or tsunami (to be more
appropriate) from a party whose strength and power is limited to a single forum
of social media i.e. Facebook. Is not it
a pity for PTI and its die-hard supporters?
Nevertheless, with the activity named “#PityForPTI” it has now
become visible (provided you have an eye to see it) that PML (N) support is not
limited to only a single forum. Its presence cannot be ignored or denied, be it
Facebook, Twitter, Blogs, and other social media forums or be it public
gatherings etc. PML (N) supporters are everywhere reason being they are the
real “awam” and “awam” is present everywhere. PML (N) is modern yet
conservative at the same time but truly represents the people of Pakistan.
